Men

Now really

"Do you know how a little about skype?" (38 year old male, married? probably, known him since... yesterday)
"?"
"well, like how to download it. I'm not good with computers."
"(!) you can just go on google, type skype, you'll find the site and you can download it"
"Oh, I don't know. Could you help me do it?"
"(!!!!) yes, ok. on this computer at the office?"
"oh, no, off course."
" well today I don't think..."
"no no, let's say friday, my place"

Me stupid, I know.

"This is definetely the last time I'm going to koh samet......"
" You should really go to koh chang. It's better ...." (26 or something year old male, with girlfriend, work colleague)
" I have been talking with Ae about it for a long time and we said we're gonna go someday."
"....." we go on about koh chang
"So, I'll take you there one week end if you want."
Me stupid again, thinking it'll be a let's get together with other colleagues thing (meaning more than just he and I) "sounds nice, we could do it one week end" until it turns out he did not tell anyone else about koh chang and sends me an address to check some hotel, see if I like it. The big romantic luxurious resort. Great.

"So do you want to go to samet next week end with us ?"(27 year old male, single) Us meaning three other guys+ one girl, no couples.
"Sure." so I take two days leave, really needed a break, definetely not a romantic getaway.
They change locations for a while and one of the three other guys keeps me posted during the week. finally he says one day before leaving, the other options are off, samet still standing. We meet to buy tickets, he doesn't breath a word about the others, though since they leave together I assume they sent him to buy the tickets for them too, no need for five people to do it. Ok, I go buy tickets with him. He asks for two. "what about the others?" he avoids the question. I insist. "oh, they changed their minds yesterday, they're going to kanchanaburi, in the mountains, quite unexciting. They didn't call you?" ok, so I just assume I wasn't invited as well at kanchanaburi. "so, who else is going to samet?". " D and his girlfriends and x and y and two other guys I don't know from bangkok. " I already took my days off, I'm not going to stay home alone and there are more people going so I say ok. When we arrive to samet, turns out finally there's only D and his girlfriend, the romantic couples' week end on schedule. Me very very stupid.

So I cannot help but wonder -as a famous quote would go- is it something about me -like the fact that I must be stupid- or is it just this place? Do men really think that by forcing a little your hand they will get away with want they want so easily? Because I may be easily led sometimes but I still can and do say no.